FINDING A MOM-LIFE BALANCE. LEARNING YOU CAN TAKE CARE OF OTHERS ALL WHILE TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF.
Author: Sarah Ott
I am a Full Time Mom and Part Time Speech and Language Pathologist. Becoming a Mom has brought me to to numerous new life lessons, including balancing self-care with caring for my family, fulfilling my professional goals in new ways, and striving to raise good humans! This page is a space to share my own experiences, successes, and failures, hopefully create a positive space for others to join, and invite you to join me in pursuing happiness in whatever life journey you are on. Our children are our greatest teachers, and looking for us to teach them in return.
This pandemic has been a chaotic, humbling, and shifting experience. It feels as though information can change daily, plans can change daily, and (personally) my mindset can change daily. Moreover, as a parent and professional I realize that this pandemic is an opportunity for me to teach my children the importance and power of collective thinking. This pandemic has brought to light new social norms, some of which seem unnatural; such as remaining away from those we love. It has also highlighted how sometimes we can get caught up in being an individual with individual desires, rights, values, wants, needs, etc. You can be beautifully individual and still be part of the group goal. In fact, we as humans have always depended on each other. This time is no different.
We need to remain physically apart. While mentally and emotionally we need, more than ever, to come together.
I currently have a toddler that loves to jump from activity to activity because the world is her oyster! At least for this age it definitely seems that way! Her senses are growing and integrating constantly, so exposure to different textures, smells, sounds, etc. are not only fun they are IMPORTANT!
Not to mention that teaching new vocabulary related to events we experience during seasons can be a great way to generalize new words across all sorts of environments! With that being said I respect that parents are busier than ever before. These bins are not only super simple to make, but they can be sealed up and stacked on top of each other almost like puzzles! Your child can play with them for days or weeks for expanding learning!
We are VERBS! Constantly growing (and sometimes shrinking), learning, living, and moving. Full of opportunities to constantly look at ourselves as human BEINGS. What you are right now is always changing…if you’re kind to yourself! Tips for teaching our children the same
I’ve been absent from the blog for a little as life gets busy! My baby has completely turned into a toddler and worldwide there has been a lot going on, which has been leading me to really think about my mindset around choices. Making them, teaching them, responding to them rather than REACTING to them. My toddler is not “terrible”, but she is yearning for independence. She is yearning to exercise what small amounts of FREEDOMS of choice she may have. It is my job to provide them. It is my job to allow her to exercise independence safely. It is my job to be accepting, flexible, patient, and observant. It is my job to practice stopping, thinking, regulating, and then deciding in my daily life. My path is largely laid board by board with my own choices. Learning to make decisions begins with learning to recognize and respond to provided choices. As parents and mentors, we can cultivate decision making skills, as well as leadership mentalities from a young age.
I was recently introduced to Julia Cameron’s Morning Pagesexercise, as well as her call to get creative daily. Research shows that exercising creativity has a positive impact on self-care, self-image, and positive mindset. As a mom I look for self-care practices that I can easily incorporate throughout my day (5-10-minute increments or less). Instilling a sense of radical self-care has become a personal goal of mine after realizing that I need to feel good to be a present parent. To quote an amazing interview on The Soul Feed Podcast (one of my favorites!) “There’s so much power and momentum in loving yourself in little moments! It’s not about a spa day every six months. It’s about radical self-care every day. Morning pages have become a really valuable tool for me personally, so I wanted to take the time to share. Since my other passion is also encouraging positive self-talk and flexible mindset in children, I also wanted to share some ways to connect with children to help them practice gratitude and continuous self-care practices as well. I think especially now the next generation can be taught subtly and directly that being kind to yourself and treating yourself like a friend, enables you to be kind to others and causes a ripple effect of a culture of kindness.
We need to get back to teaching our children that thinking and guessing are just as important as knowing. With Amazon launching its newest “Kid Version” of Alexa I ask you as a parent to stop, observe, and wonder…before you buy. While A.I. is definitely helpful in making our lives more manageable it has its downsides. As adults we choose our interactions with technology, and most of us also had the benefit of growing up with simpler technology. If you dive into the research on devices like Alexa and their impact on children, the findings show that the developmental impacts can be significant.
I don’t know you, but I do. I don’t know if you work full-time outside your home, or in your home. I don’t know if you have a nanny or use a daycare or have family that helps. I don’t know if you sleep train, or feed organic, or order take out. I don’t know if you have time for yourself, or drink wine and call it “Mommy Juice. I don’t know if you do date nights once a month, or dread taking your laundry out of the dryer to actually put it away.
A slice of quality time for the whole family! As a speech therapist making pizzas is one of my most FAVORITE activities to work on sequencing and organizational skills! From a health perspective it’s an amazing way to teach your children that cooking can be fun, healthy ingredients can taste great together, and that knowing what is in your food is important! Ingredients matter! This sauce is easy, healthy, and packed with flavor! Plus some fun ways to encourage sequencing skills and narrative language development in the process!
We can think of our children’s minds as buckets we want to fill. In order to fill their buckets and increase confidence and enjoyment of learning we need to “plug the foundational holes” in their buckets. Having solid skills prior to beginning school enables our children to regulate, learn, and thrive.