The Mom Squad.
This post goes out to all the women supporting women. Among them I include my own amazing mom, the “Aunts” that love my daughter fiercely, my babysitter who is dependable and trustworthy, and my mom friends who totally get when you only have maybe 45 minutes out, because NAPS.
Thanks for constantly lifting me up, making me laugh, and loving my girl.
I have this beautiful friend who had her first daughter about a year before me. She is one of my best “non-toxic” relationships. I don’t mean “non-toxic” in the way of chemicals (although she is that too, and has inspired me to look into the wellness of my family). She is “non toxic” in that she is always real, uplifting, kind, supportive, and nonjudgmental. She cares for her family and for others as a living (shout out to all the nurses/saints). Before having my baby she sent me directions for making padsicles (the gift that kept on giving) and sitz spray. She told me that I would need them. Whatever that meant…
I totally found out what that meant.
After I had my baby she was there for me anytime I texted (even though we are on a three hour time difference). She sent us the most giant basket of chocolate covered fruit and cookies (Maybe a new mom’s dream?) She also sent me a postpartum care package…to this day the best baby gift ever.
It wasn’t about the gifts. It was about the THOUGHT. She was one of the people that helped wipe away a lot of physical stress, but also emotional. My amazing “Non Toxic” friend. And she wasn’t alone. My husband’s best friend’s wife, who I count as another amazing “Non-Toxic” friend saved me from pregnancy calf cramps, indigestion, and oh yeah my husband and I from homelessness. Her parents took us in when we couldn’t move into our apartment…for two months. I really could go on and on about amazing women in my life, but my ultimate point is…surround yourself with the people that wipe away stress and leave you GLOWING with positivity and light.
CHOOSE THOSE PEOPLE
Your time is so valuable. It is the MOST valuable thing you have. Spend it on the people that make you feel AMAZING. When you’re with them you feel energized. Practice self-care with your diet, skincare, cleaning, exercising, etc. BUT also practice self-care in your relationships.
Care for those who care for you. Those Non-Toxic, bright, laugh so hard you pee a little (maybe because you had a baby?) friends.
“You may not be able to control someone’s negative behavior. But you can control how long you participate in it.” – Unknown